Firstly a big congrats on expecting a baby. There’s so much to think about when expecting a baby isn’t there!? I’m Jess from Jessica Jane Photography and my clients share with me, their worries and concerns while on their pregnancy journey.
“In fact, a recent poll I did of South West Victoria Mum’s – this topic was in the top 5 of what mum’s think about!”
There’s no doubt that having a baby will change your relationship. It’s one of the biggest changes you’ll go through together. Remember change isn’t a bad thing – at least not always!.
I remember MISSING my husband even though we were under the same roof. I had no time to myself or with hubby. In those first few weeks, ALL my time was taken up with feeds, nappy changes etc.
I missed the time my husband and I used to have together. Now it was all about baby and around the clock feeds. We purchased a T.V. to put in our bedroom so we could at least watch T.V. together in bed. It was an attempt to spend more time together which helped – especially in the first 4 weeks of bringing baby home.
Having a baby brings new bonds with your partner. Just wait until you see him holding his baby for the first time and watching him grow to become an incredible father. It’s the best!
I loved this post on 8 Shocking ways Marriage Changes After Baby. Like most things in life the hardest challenges often end up being the best things in life. Check it out, it will prepare you for the changes ahead.
WHAT IF MY PARTNER FEELS LEFT OUT?
I can so relate to the below post from Melissa Macdonald featured on The Bubhub.
“I really needed a reality check and it was my husband who gave it to me.
No doubt we had lost touch. My kids and my family are my number one importance. However I have to say and I hate to admit it, but the kids had really been coming first and this meant my husband often got left to last.
I know I’m not alone in saying this, in fact speaking to my friends, they all say the same thing. But this really became a problem, my husband was really feeling left out. We ended up seeing a counsellor to help us talk out some of our issues we had swept under the carpet because the kids and my work were always taking priority.
Family definitely comes first for me. I am certainly there for my kids, everything from feeding, clothing, playing and being the general taxi service. I also have a career as an author and an online business that takes up most of my spare time after the housework.
“So where does that leave me?” my husband asked.
You know, I really had to think hard at how I could possibly fit in ‘us’ time when at the end of the day after the kids were in bed, I was ready to drop dead I was so tired. My husband was certainly feeling left out, and I hated that, but at the same time I didn’t have any more energy, surely he could see that.
Now, things didn’t really get that bad but I believe it was because my husband was open about his feelings and we acted upon these, that now things are much better. No doubt we still have our bad days, but I can see when he is feeling left out and I stop and make sure I make time for him. This means turning off my computer, no social media, no phone and certainly no TV. We need just ‘us’ time as a family or a date night out without the kids.”
To read the full blog post visit Does your partner feel left out post here.
I hope you’re feeling fabulous – growing babies it’s exhausting!
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